“In pursuit of success, the only form of fear that is acceptable is the fear of regret”.
Avoid The Catastrophic View
This must be one of the most damaging dream killers known to man. When I speak with client’s friends or strangers about their dream, my favorite type of conversation to have by the way. It takes a moment or two to get individuals to share their ideas. I think it’s important to be a source of inspiration for those who speak about their dreams aloud. I noticed, however, that many of these conversations move from the desired outcome to the created list of impossibilities that paralyze the pursuit of dreams. This “dream killer” mentality is an important thing to understand. It’s a way to keep you from acting, it’s that part of your subconscious mind designed to protect you from harm in the form of failure, disappointment or embarrassment. To avoid this, start with embracing it. Yes, explore all possible outcomes. Both good and bad. The key to this approach is to think of what you could learn by failing and what you would do the next time. Create a list of possible failures and the learnings you would gain. Create a vision of this idea with perfect execution in addition to the less than positive outcome. The combination of these two creates a version with a list of possible challenges that you can build a plan. It also offers a clarified view that makes it easier to act.
Work the Problem
I once read an article about how NASA solves big engineering problems. I have since adopted this approach and feel it is one of the most important tools I use for achievement. At the start of any goal, there are problems that do not have immediate solutions, questions that are without answers. This is another road block that stops progress in its tracks. If you were a NASA employee, you would be instructed to put the unsolvable problems and unanswerable questions in an imaginary black box with the accepted belief that all problems have solutions and all questions have answers. Then work on the part of the challenge that has a clear path. What you will find is that over time the answers reveal themselves and the puzzle come together. You must keep working the problem until it is solved.
Understand Facts and Emotions
I think this is the most difficult strategy to adopt because it requires you to be present and conscious of how shortfalls or setbacks affect you emotionally. Many times, a setback, no matter how big or small is enough to slow or stop an action. Ask yourself the following questions to help manage your state of mind during this time. How does this change my view of my goal? What is it that has changed about me? What will I lose if I don’t complete this goal? Am I willing to break a promise to myself if I give up? These questions are designed to help you center yourself and re-engage your pursuit of a goal. I think part of releasing this fear is acknowledging its existence. It is perfectly fine to be afraid of a goal, some might say it’s actually a sign that you are pushing yourself to reach that full potential when you’re slightly fearful. Fear is a normal part of the process, not a reason to stop. Keep that in mind when you feel your motivation waning.